3 Perspective Shifts to Keep Your Fire Fueled

If you want to test your marriage, might I suggest patterned peel-and-stick wallpaper?

I’m (mostly) joking—but as I sit in front of my newly finished podcast backdrop with its individually feathered swans, I can confirm: that process takes serious patience. The seam is right behind me if you're watching on YouTube… but we’re still married, so we’ll call it a win.

Wallpaper chaos aside, this episode is a deeply personal one. After nearly a decade of entrepreneurship—and almost as long being a mother—I’ve experienced a lot. The highs. The heartbreaks. The identity shifts. The deep, soul-level growth that comes from building something that matters while raising little humans.

And there are three shifts, in particular, that I credit with not only keeping me in business but helping me grow into a version of myself I actually really like. These mindset pivots have allowed me to keep going even when it was hard. I’m sharing them with you today, not because they’re the only way—but because they might help you find a little more clarity, ease, or courage in your own path.

Take what serves you, leave what doesn’t. Let’s dive in.

1. Redefining “Enough”

I don’t know about you, but “enoughness” has been a lifelong lesson for me. Am I doing enough? Being enough? Producing enough? Am I enough—for my business, my kids, my partner, my clients?

For most of my life, I’ve been my own harshest critic. I grew up in chaos and entered adulthood wired for perfectionism and people-pleasing. And let me tell you—when I became an entrepreneur? That harsh inner voice almost broke me.

I used to take everything personally. Every client cancellation, every slow month, every missed to-do item—it felt like proof that I wasn’t good enough. I cried. A lot. I felt like I was failing. But over time, I began to shift. I started to recognize that:

“Everything I’m doing is the best I can do at that time, with the tools and capacity I have. And that is enough.”

Now, I approach new challenges in motherhood and business with curiosity, not self-judgment. When my five-year-old has a meltdown I’ve never seen before, I say: “Hey, Mommy’s never done this either. Let’s figure it out together.”

That grace? That self-compassion? It’s a game changer.

2. Being Good > Being Nice

Let’s talk about something that burns a lot of women out in business: the pressure to be nice.

I’ve seen it so many times (and lived it myself): not charging enough, saying yes to things we don’t want to do, skipping contracts, avoiding boundaries… all because we just want to be nice.

But here's the truth I had to learn the hard way:

Being “nice” in business often leads to burnout. But being “good”? That’s sustainable.

Being a good person means I have boundaries. I charge fairly. I respect my own time and energy, and I teach my clients to do the same. I don’t do 8-hour VIP days just to close the sale—because I know I won’t deliver my best. And I’m not going to bend over backwards at the expense of my well-being just to make something easier for someone else.

So if you’re struggling with this idea—especially if you’re a people-pleaser—I invite you to shift the question from:

“Was I nice?” to “Was I good?”

Good people have contracts. Good people stick to scope. Good people protect their peace and deliver incredible value. You don’t have to be a doormat to be a kind human.

3. Confidence Is Overrated. Choose Courage Instead.

Confidence is amazing—but let’s be real: most of the time, when you’re doing something new in business, confidence doesn’t exist yet.

You don’t need confidence to hit “publish,” show your face on IG Stories, pitch a client, or join that scary-incredible mastermind. What you need is courage.

Just 5 seconds of it.

Confidence comes from repetition. But courage is what gets you started.

I’ve had to remind myself of this over and over again. When I launched this podcast, when I built my coaching programs, when I traveled across the country to attend a mastermind where I knew no one. I wasn’t confident. But I was brave—for just long enough to do the thing.

If you’re waiting to feel “ready,” please know that ready isn’t coming. But courage? Courage is available to you right now.

These three shifts—embracing enoughness, choosing to be good instead of nice, and leading with courage instead of waiting for confidence—have been transformational for me.

They’ve helped me create a business that serves me, not one I serve. They’ve helped me parent with more compassion. And they’ve helped me show up for my community without losing myself in the process.